Can you find your true self while in a relationship?

is self discovery possible in a relationship?

For the person on the unfovaroble side of an imbalanced relationship, self discovery is an uphill task.

A balanced relationship where partners share love, attention and support equally, self discovery is made easy 

As a victim of a lopsided toxic relationship, finding the time, space and energy to focus on the task of finding oneself is always going to be extremely difficult. A victim of a loveless relationship could only find their authentic self by reason of accidental awakening.

But for someone in a great relationship where good love flows, the process of self discovery is rarely accidental. It's often a conscious effort, borne out of a genuine support by one for the personal dreams and growth of another.

Whether your relationship supports your self discovery efforts or not, it's worth it, because the benefits are many.

 

So, make the commitment to understand the real you and your real worth. Because after you've discovered and accepted your real you, you would stop wasting time and resources in futile attempts to be like someone else. And you would also stop living your life the way that makes you unhappy but makes someone who doesn't care about you happy.

Understanding your real values opens the door to the discovery of your true talent. It is also the real driver of self motivation, which is the only form of consistent motivation that no one else can give to you.

This self knowledge and acceptance of real talent and self motivation make it easy to reach any lofty height you set for yourself. 

The awareness of this possibility waters the ground for a life of happiness and inner peace.

Yes, happiness and inner peace are found where self doubt and inner critic are replaced by self confidence and inner coach

The consistent feeling of happiness within, found upon acquiring self knowledge would pervade all aspects of your life including your relationships. 

Self discovery would make it easy for you to be honest with yourself and with others in any  relationship you find worthy of your trust and commitment. Then you would also come to understand that nothing that runs contrary to your real values is worth keeping, including toxic relationships 

Where can you find real treasures in life?

 

Where Can You Find Real Treasures”

Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search.

You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided.

You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand.

You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth.

If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself.

The best person to ask tough questions is you.  Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you. 

Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light.

Learning is not always going to be fun but it will never cease to demystify mysteries and give peace to a persistent seeker of real treasures.

In specific terms, the journey to uncover real treasures is the search for self. Discovering one’s real self is discovering real treasures hidden within everyone. Knowing and accepting your real self, your real strengths and everything about you will open the door to real treasures within you. It’s this simple. Unfortunately, only very few accept their real self.

Most spend a life time staring directly at the sun but never in the mirror. Most spend a whole life time aping others and working hard to be the fake version of another person. In the process, they miss everything including real treasures in them. Your real treasures are within you.

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I have been finding treasures in places I did not want to search. I have been hearing wisdom from tongues I did not want to listen. I have been finding beauty where I did not want to look. And I have learned so much from journeys I did not want to take. Forgive me, O Gracious One; for I have been closing my ears and eyes for too long. I have learned that miracles are only called miracles because they are often witnessed by only those who can see through all of life's illusions. I am ready to see what really exists on other side, what exists behind the blinds, and taste all the ugly fruit instead of all that looks right, plump and ripe. - Suzy Kassem,