How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions?
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.
This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home,
Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one.
When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability.
The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover effect. Almost everyone at home stops going to him for advice when they want to take a big decision.
They stop going not because he may not have something of value to give but because he has habitually failed to prove his reliability by being a stable financial support. The man is abandoned.
To make his wife and children need him again, he must make a major difference in his life. He has to make the decision to take actions that should improve his self worth. Where does he begin?
He should begin by setting small goals. As a man, set small goals for yourself because if you don’t have one, you would be too comfortable to leave the rut. Bill Copeland says,
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.”
It’s a goal that makes all the difference in life. So set small ones now.
Be resilient and be persistent until you achieve your set goals. When you set goals and start pursuing them, life is not to get easier for you, you’re still going to fail now and then. But every time life knocks you down, draw inspiration from Steve Maraboli’s words,.
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
Resilience and persistence always win. And when you win, no matter how small you think it is, celebrate it
Celebrate little victories because small wins put something in the cup for you to drink and be energized to keep on going forward. Bill Watterson captures it perfectly,
“Small wins are still won, and the journey is more important than overnight success.”
The celebration of little victories is going to inspire you to keep on going from one milestone to another until you get members of your household to sit up, notice and be a part of your celebration. Then slowly but surely they begin to give you the opportunity to make the difference in their lives, as you have always wanted
