Wednesday, February 8, 2023

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. - Hermann Hesse,




If you hate a person then you have a reason,


everyone you hate is a mirror of your imperfection that disturbs you;


our imperfections; our fears are our demons 

and everyone has the power to face theirs,


the source of the power is love;

love the mirror and fill your soul with the power to face your demons


and live at peace with them and the fact that there's no perfection 


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If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us. - Hermann Hesse, 

Tuesday, February 7, 2023

How to know that the one you love loves you too.

 


How do I know that the one I love, loves me too?


The signs are more in their actions and less in their words.


They would readjust their list of priorities and make you number one.


The number one priority on that list gives you the right to the lion's share of their love, time, care and orher resources.


When something out of their control, stops them from giving you the majority of their resources, they would humble themselves to apologize, then tell you the truth and appeal to you for understanding.


They would never hesitate, to show you their imperfections, share their embarrassing moments with you and hope you love everything about them.


One more thing, they would always share in your dreams and support you to achieve everything that rocks your world.

Sunday, February 5, 2023

Live the Life of Your Dreams - Roy T. Bennett,

 



Live the life of your dreams,


live your dreams, not as anyone else thinks,


but according to your vision 


and not to meet anyone else's expectations;


but to satisfy the purpose of life, which everyone seeks,


which is, personal happiness wrapped up in inner peace.


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Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others. - Roy T. Bennett, 

7 Stages of effortless decision making process.




It's certain that everyone at one point in life has been in a situation where they couldn't make the right choices. The consequence of that was a state of confusion.

Decision making is not supposed to be a difficult task. By knowing the right decision making process, decisions could be reached effectively and effortlessly every time there is a need for it.

Below are 7 the stages of decision making process:

1. Define the problem.

"If I had an hour to solve a problem I'd spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions." - Albert Einstein.

Everytime a situation calls for a decision, take the time to identify the real problem.

Without identifying the real problem, it would be very hard to reach a decision on the real solutions.

The best way to identify the real problem is to carry out a research.


2. Carry out a research.

Carry out a research, ask questions, go back in time, search the present and make projections into the future to gather enough data and information that would reveal the problem.

Leave no stone unturned, it's a research. If you knew what the problem was and the right decision to make, you wouldn't be carrying out the research? 

Albert Einstein said, 'If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research, would it?"

3. What are the alternatives?

The research should present you with alternative answers to your questions.

Consider each alternative course of action on its merits and prune them down until you're left with the best options.

Don't pick anyone yet.

4. Seek advice.

Seek the advice of those you wouldn't hesitate to trade places with. 

You shouldn't be surprised to know that people are often willing to share their success stories with enthusiastic listeners 


5. Which is best among the alternatives?

Armed with your best alternatives and the advice of your role models, analyze all options, this time, to pick the best alternative. 


6. Develop your plan of action? 

Develop a plan of action around the best alternative you picked in stage 5.
Then move on to stage 7.

7. Implement your plan, assess results as they come in and make adjustments where necessary.

Execute your plan of action and put it on your daily schedule as a priority. 

Protect this priority and let nothing else steal time and effort from it.

Be ruthless in your implementation by removing from your schedule, all other conflicting priorities.

As results begin to come in, assess them.

There's no guarantee that your plan will succeed at the first attempt of implementation. 

What should you do when it fails?

Ronald Reagan answered, ""The more the plans fail the more the planner’s plan.”

So when the first plan fails, find out why, adjust, make more plans and implement them.


Saturday, February 4, 2023

Multitasking is the ability to screw everything up simultaneously.


 You've little time but have so much to do,

Aha! You've to multitask since time can't be borrowed,


Go ahead! But you may end up achieving nothing,

Jeremy Clarkson says, "Multitasking is the ability to screw everything up simultaneously.” 


Do you believe it?





Thursday, February 2, 2023

Live in tiny homes.


 

How large must your space be in order to be happy?


a mansion or a home so tiny that walls keep no secrets but let everyone be


 a shoulder for a friend to lean on


and a heart for the forlorn to trust?


Isnt it obvious that when we choose to increase distances between us,


we take ourselves out of the atmosphere of true love?













Wednesday, February 1, 2023

Having a bad time? What are you busy doing?


Having a bad time?


If you're  going through difficult moment at the time, what're you doing about it?


Are you busy worrying or you're busy focusing on things within your control?


A bad time is made worse by a state of confusion, which is where worrying leads to. On the other hand, control empowers you with the positive belief and the right level of confidence you need to haul yourself out of a bad time quickly.


So, when you have a bad time stop being busy worrying and start being busy taking control of the things you could. In most cases, things within your control would light the torch for you to find your way out of a bad time.

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