When you come to the end of the road after traveling together with a partner for so long, goodbyes have never been easy to say.
The difficulty to say goodbyes have caused many to quietly withdraw. They suddenly cut off communication links with former loved ones and fade away with no reasons given.
The sudden disappearance leaves the abandoned ex confused, heartbroken and wondering often, "What did I do wrong?"
But relationships don't have to end this way between two adults who one time seemed inseparable and were a source of strong support to each other. You can end a relationship without burning the bridge of friendship.
So, how can you break up nicely with your partner?
1. Be sure you really want to break up:
Be sure that it's what you really want. Some have broken up abruptly with someone, moved on to have other failed relationships and realizes later that the one they ended abruptly was their best.
Breaking up and regretting later coule be avoided when you're absolutely sure that there's no future in it.
When you're sure that you really want to quit, search for valid reasons before you sit down with your partner to have a discussion.
2. Know and be certain about the "why".
It's easier to sit down with your partner, have a communication and say good bye when you have valid reasons and are definite that they're enough.
Before you give your reasons, it would be appropriate to state up front that at the end of the discussion, there wouldn't be a change of mind because you've crossed the bridge. Then go ahead and state your reasons, say goodbyes and walk away
3. Walk away quickly.
When you're done talking, walk away quickly. Don't prolong the discussion; be emotionally detached and avoid a back and forth question and answer session. A prolonged session could stir up old feelings and rekindle the desire to stay together a little bit longer.
Making the decision to stay together a bit longer may go against sound judgement made in the moment of clear headedness. So, it pays to walk quickly and beat the trap of 'the head leading the brain'.to regrets.
4. Don't look back;
When you walk away, avoid looking back to the terminated relationship too soon.
Looking back may bring back fond memories, which could force you to seek one more meeting with the one you just broke up with. If you should have this meeting, you're going to lose your respect and the position of authority you had when you broke up.
5. Give 100 percent of your time and energy to what you really love:
After breaking up, give all your attention to what you really love. It's a great away to quickly forget about your ex and avoid making the mistake of going back to them.
There's another benefit of turning all your attention to the stuff you really love. It's going to make you very curious about finding the ways to succeed at it and to also achieve every goal you set for yourself.
In other words, you're going to stop giving excuses and you're going to be persistent.
Susan Sontag says, "Do stuff. be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration's shove or society's kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It's all about paying attention. attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. stay eager."
