What are your five biggest fears and why?

 

Is it the fear of death? 

Or are the fears of boredom, rejection, suffering and self confrontation hunting you?

If it’s the fear of death then you have nothing to fear because everyone will die.  For every living human being, the real purpose of life lies between the beginning and the end. Now what is this real purpose? 

The real purpose of life is not to live forever but to use the gift of life to do what you love and share your love with a world that never forgets worthy contributions. Chuck Palahniuk captures the purpose of life in the following words;

”We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will.”

Set goals for yourself and go about working hard to achieve them. Be absorbed in your pursuits and when the fear of death occasionally sneaks up on you, find strength in George R.R.Martin’s words and push it aside;

“What do we say to the Lord of death? Not today.”

Are you afraid of boredom? You don’t need to be, you can create excitement for yourself everyday of your life, just by following your heart. The feeling of boredom usually comes from either doing what you don’t love or from being overwhelmed by loneliness.

You can overcome boredom and loneliness by doing just two things,

 Create exciting moments for yourself. Live life by your terms and make every minute count. Look forward to exciting moments you create and they would get you out of the bed every day. When you succeed at this, boredom loses its grip on you.

Another way to drive away boredom and loneliness is to make you into a great company to be with. This comes easily to the person that accepts who they are and are comfortable being who they are. Knowing how to belong to oneself is the antidote to loneliness. Michel de Montaigne puts it this way,

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” 

Knowing how to belong to oneself is a useful tool for dealing with rejection. The proof of this is that thorough knowledge of your capabilities gives confidence to take on tough challenges. It’s also an encouragement giver in moments of failure and rejection. But if you don’t confront yourself, you would not know the truth about who you really are.

”A confrontation, most importantly one with ourselves, is what needs to take place in order for true awareness, change, and healing to occur.” - Kristina Smeriglio.

Now, should you be afraid of self confrontation? The answer is No! it’s only through self confrontation that you discover the awesome strength you have to overcome your biggest fears and live your dream life.